Lies

I'm so tired of being lied to. I feel constantly bombarded with lies, especially from movies, book and music. All of these proclaim "love"- what it looks like, feels like and how it should be. Well their love is a lie. That's not how  love really is. Movies and books set up expectations, unrealistic expectations, for life and it really hurts when you realize that your expectation are wrong. It hurts me and it hurts those around you as they try to live up to unreasonable expectations. The second thing I'm tired of being lied to is body image. Movies are especially guilty of this. The only women they show are not real women. They are women who spend countless hours daily at a gym, they have personal trainers and they eat practically nothing. They portray that as normal, in fact if you do not have that fake body you're not good enough. This is a lie planted in our heads from really early. "You are not perfect if you do not have a perfect body." I've started "stamping" things in my mind so I don't get as confused. I have a mental stamp that I put on things that are lies. It's kinda silly but it really helps me.What do you do to overcome constant lies?

Life is Ironic

Life is so ironic sometimes. For example, I feel a lot more stressed about everything in general when the house is messy. I feel, I don't know, out of control I guess. And I do really enjoy cleaning. It calms me down and relaxes me. All these benefits but does it change how often I clean? No not really. The other hard part is I'm trying to learn that I'm not what I do. So if I don't get the dishes done it doesn't mean I'm a bad wife for example. So I'm trying to learn that while also getting things done, so I don't feel stressed, while I'm also lazy and haven't had time to do it, which remind me that I am not what I do. So the thing that makes me relax is also stressing me out. I'm tired just thinking about it! Thankfully Joe is not picky about the house, he actually thinks better when it's a little messy so that definitively helps. =D

Conflict

I  heard a quote the other day that I really liked. It said "You can't tell a story without conflict." I totally agree with that statement, however, I also think it was one of the things that surprised me most about marriage. I knew we would fight, every couple does. But somehow I had deluded myself into thinking we wouldn't fight as much or something because of how long we dated. My dad has a really great saying he told us several times. It says in Proverbs 27:17 that "As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend." My dad told us this can't happen with out some sparks. So I guess I'm thankful for our conflict because it'll tell a great and we're both being beaten into the image of God.

One of my new favorite songs

"It don't have a job
Don't pay your bills
Won't buy you a home
In Beverly Hills


Won't fix your life
In five easy steps
Ain't the law of the land
Or the government


But it's all you need..


Love, will, hold us together
Make us a shelter
to weather the storm


And I'll, be, my brothers keeper
So the whole world will know
That we're not alone


It's waiting for you
Knockin' at your door!
Every moment of truth
When your heart hits the floor


When you're on your knees then...


Love, will, hold us together
Make us a shelter
to weather the storm


And I'll, be, my brothers keeper
So the whole world will know
That we're not alone


This is the first, day of the rest of your life
This is the first, day of the rest of your life
'Cause even in the dark you can still see the light
It's gonna be alright, s'gonna be alright 


This is the first, day of the rest of your life
This is the first, day of the rest of your life
'Cause even in the dark you can still see the light
It's gonna be alright, s'gonna be alright 


Love, will, hold us together
Make us a shelter
to weather the storm
And I'll, be, my brothers keeper
So the whole world will know
That we're not alone"


I love love love this song. Look it up- Matt Maher "Hold us Together" 

Marriage

I think marriage is the hardest thing I've ever done. We've only been married for about 7 months, and they've been the most wonderful and challenging months I've been through. I heard before I was married that marriage is a mirror. I think its worse then that. And also better. Marriage is a talking mirror. My husband sees my faults more then anyone else does. And he's not afraid to call me out on something I need to change. I both love that and hate that about him :) But it has definitively helped me grow and mature a ton and I'm so thankful for that. I cannot wait to grow and learn even more with him.

Snow!

Today we had our first real snow storm of the season. Joe is super excited. I think snow is his favorite thing and he's been greatly missing it. Also he's really excited for money. He's plowing this winter with a guy from our church who started his own company. Anyway the more it snows, the more we make! The other day he had a dream that it snowed 3 feet and it was still snowing! He was sad it was only a dream, I'm much happier with our 5 inches we got :) So since he's out busy plowing I get to "shovel" our steps. We actually don't own a shovel but I used a dust pan and it worked great. Who needs shovels anyway?

Love

It seems to me that love is very much a choice. I think this is why relationships can be so hard. Sure those warm fuzzy feelings come easily right away. But then you really have to work hard to keep those feeling. A lot of people don't want to work hard so they give up and decide they are no longer in love and they separate. Well personally I think that's stupid. Feelings are so fickle, especially as a woman. I can go from flirting and have a grand time with my husband to being really angry at him. I have mood swings like crazy, and I'm not even an emotional girl. Anyway my point is you can't trust feelings. This applies to any relationship, but I think it's easiest to have this with your spouse. You see them everyday and it's easy to let life get in the way of living. So choose love. Choose to spend time and effort getting to know one another. It's work but it is so worth it!

Dishes

The past few weeks our kitchen drain has been getting slower and slower. So since water tends to sit in the sink for hours on end barely draining, the dishes keep piling up. My wonderful husband did the dishes today. And now he's fixing the sink. But he did the dishes in the bathtub and now they're stacked in the bathroom. It makes me laugh =D

Communion

I've noticed a lot of churches only do communion once a month or even once a quarter. I grew up in a church such as this, but for the last 3 years I've been going to a church that does it every week. I recently visited a church that does not do it as frequently and it made me think. I think it is very important to celebrate the Lord's Supper every week. Here is my logic. Churches pass offering every single week. Truly they do need money to cover expenses and we are commanded to give. But my question is this. Why is it more important to meet finical needs then spiritual ones? I think if churches don't pass communion every week, then they shouldn't pass offering every week. It's almost like they are not willing to take ten minutes out of their preaching or singing time to reflect on what Christ has done. Why is that? Christ coming and dying is the only reason we have anything. Because of that He has given us everything, but we can't take time for it? Look up Acts 2: 42-47. In forty two it states that the new Christians devoted themselves to the breaking of bread. I don't think they meant whenever it fit nicely into their schedule. This was happening all the time and I really think that's important for Christians to take time to remember what Christ has done in the way He has set up.